Sometimes my queries are not so optimized. People say to look into the query plan (actual & estimated) for performance estimation.
SEEK is better than SCAN (index or table).
How do I seek over a scan?
They say that ORDER BY, i.e. sorting, is more costly.
What is the work around?
Which kind of query is better in what situations?
Articles discussing Query Optimization issues are often very factual and useful, but as you found out they can be hard to follow. It is a bit like when someone is trying to learn the basics rules of baseball, and all the sports commentary he/she finds on the subject is rife with acronyms and strategic details about the benefits of sacrificing someone at bat, and other "inside baseball" trivia...
So you need to learn the basics first:
The following links apply to MS SQL Server. If that is not the DBMS you are using you can try and find similar material for the system of your choice. In fact, so long as you realize that the implementation may vary, it may be useful to peruse the MS documention.
MS SQL storage structures
MS SQL pages and extents
Then as you started doing, learn the way to read query plans (even if not in fully understand at first), and all this should bring you to a level where you start to make sense of the more advanced books or articles on the topic. I do not know of tutorials for Query Plans on the Internet (though I'm quite sure they exist...), but the following methodology may be of use: Start with simple queries, review the query plan (if possible in a graphic fashion), start recognizing the most common elements: Table Scan, Index Seek, Sort, nested loops... Read the detailed properties of these instances: estimated nb of rows, cost percentage etc. When you find a new element that you do not know/understand, use this keyword to find details on the internet. Also: experiment a lot.
Finally you should remember that while the way the query is written and the set of indexes etc. provided cover a great part of optimization needs, there are other sources of optmization, for example the way hardware is put to use (a basic example is how by having the data file and the log file on separate physical disks, we can greatly improve CRUD performance).