I am trying to find way to do below in SQL table, where a is bit data type
You can use the INSTEAD OF trigger. It's a Highlander-type trigger, meaning there can only be one of it on a table (for every operation).
CREATE TRIGGER MyTable_SetBitColumn ON MyTable INSTEAD OF UPDATE
AS BEGIN
UPDATE MyTable
SET BitColumn = i.BitColumn
FROM (SELECT TOP 1 * FROM inserted) i
END